Sometimes I hear from wives who are quite upset that their husband has initiated a marital separation. I certainly can’t and I don’t blame them. I know firsthand that being separated from your husband feels absolutely horrible. It is a very scary and emotionally volatile time. It’s natural to be a little frustrated and angry at the person who set all of this in motion. And it may even be natural to want that person to repent.

I heard it from a wife who put it this way. “My husband initiated a separation. I fought him every step of the way, but he insisted and didn’t give me many options. He said he needed time to think and assess what he wanted out of his life. Well, now he’s taking all this time selfish to find himself while I have to take care of all the housework and raise the kids. I want him to regret being so selfish and just leaving us for his own selfish reasons. He mentioned maybe wanting to come home. And to be honest I want him to come home because I want some relief But I want him to regret his actions so he never does this again Sometimes when we talk I can’t Don’t be sarcastic and nasty because I want him to understand what what he has done. How can I make him regret the day he suggested a separation?

Believe me when I tell you that I understand these questions. When my husband left me due to a separation, I was absolutely furious with him. I thought he was only thinking of himself and his own needs. Wanting him to regret or regret it is completely normal. However, in my experience, you have to be very careful how he tries to accomplish this, which I’ll discuss below.

Know that if you try to make him regret it in a negative way, he may not want to come home. Or you can go again: When you find yourself in this situation, you must be very careful not to let your frustration take over your actions. You have to keep your end goal firmly in mind. In this particular case, this woman’s ultimate goal was to get her husband back quickly and then not leave again. But, if she was sarcastic or she exposed how selfish her actions were, what do you think could happen? In my opinion and experience, he is more likely to walk away from her. Because it’s human nature to reject or walk away from someone who makes you feel bad about yourself or inspires negative feelings in you. Acting negatively may make her momentarily regret her actions, but it will also increase the chances that you will come back to square one when she gets frustrated with this process. Using negativity never really improves your situation. It just keeps stirring.

Why it is better to make him regret parting with you by reminding him how much he loves you: I think the much better strategy is to try to improve your relationship to the point where he regrets wasting time with you. Why do I think this? Well, I talk to many men in this situation on my blog. Many will tell him that when his wife is negative or unpleasant, it makes him think that maybe he was right to leave in the first place (and maybe to stay away now).

But if your wife shows you someone who is loving, understanding, and patient, you actually realize that leaving that person was a mistake. They realize that their own actions have caused them to lose time with their families. And you know what? This is when they are most likely to regret the separation. And that’s when they’re most likely never to want to leave you again. Remember when I talked about remembering your ultimate goal? Well, this solution ensures that you achieve your ultimate goal. Because when he not only regrets leaving but doesn’t want to leave again as a result of his positive behavior, then it’s much more likely that his marriage will actually benefit and improve from this process.

But when you try to make him feel guilty and remorseful about negative behavior or negative strategies, you make it more likely that you are actually damaging your marriage and more likely that he will avoid you or not come back. or go out again. So, to answer the question posed, there are positive and negative ways to make your husband regret the separation. But I strongly believe that using positive methods is the best.