I am fascinated by the number of women who complain that there are no good men to marry and the number of men who go their own way (MGTOW).

While doing research for one of my books, I learned something absolutely amazing. I learned that both men and women are more educated in the area of ​​preparation for an occupation that we must successfully choose and marry a partner for the next forty years. Why is this important? Many people who get into relationships and get married don’t have a precise idea of ​​what they are getting into. They are not educationally equipped with the tools they need to have a healthy relationship. Worse still, due to the castration of men and the virility shown in the media, the court system, movies, human resource policies, etc., there is no benefit to men from being men.

More now than ever, schools and universities are focused on women. The Judeo-Christian marriage model, in which the roles of traditional marriage are not equal, is frowned upon by the feminist movement. That being said, how can a man see marriage in today’s society as a benefit? Most of the time he is not fully appreciated for everything he does. He is expected to work his whole life for his family, and suddenly his wife decides to leave, causing him to lose everything he has invested and worked for.

Women are taught that they must have high standards for the man they are supposed to marry. However, are they emotionally ready for marriage? Clearly, both men and women are unlikely to have read a good book on relationships or communication to prepare for a healthy relationship. Men often complain that women can sometimes be “drama queens”, are selfish and want to be the center of attention. Some men also report that women are unwilling to bring much to the table other than the sexual intercourse that women tend to use to manipulate men. Men like companionship and women who like to spend their time doing the things that men like to do. Men love to be respected. They like women they can trust, they are considerate but they often say they lack these things.

Men who go their own way do not have to risk being decimated financially, emotionally, and physically. They can live a more peaceful life without drama. They will often go out together, but will never remarry. Men want a relationship, but many men and women are not ready. So how can this dynamic be improved?

I think educating ourselves about what a healthy relationship is supposed to be is vitally important. Statistics reveal that the total percentage of college graduates who will not read another book after graduating from college is 42%. For high school graduates it is 33%.

Education is essential in relationships. Imagine the difference it would make if 1/3 of our formal education included relationship skills. I argue that the result would be couples better prepared for relationships. That said, reading and practicing what you’ve learned would improve not only the quality but also the longevity of a relationship. Realizing that “being” the right person who is ready for a relationship rather than “finding” the right person could change the dynamics of the lack of men and women eligible for marriage.