Caresses with an act that leads couples to experience unforgettable sensations and open the door to moments of intimacy, but which are ignored by many.

Raquel Díaz Illescas, psychologist and sexologist, said in a conversation with the newspaper El Mundo: “This is for you, it is a good way to work on fine touch, calm the mind and learn to caress.”

“Yes, it’s not just for you to learn braille, do it if you want. Nor is it an act of empathy with blind people, although it would be nice if everyone did it. It is an opportunity for your caresses to become more seductive and unforgettable, both in the body of another person, and in your own, ”she added.

Here the diffusion of the Spanish media about the pleasure of caresses:

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Generally, asking to be caressed is wanting them to slide over your body, gently rub your skin, showing affection, complicity or desire, usually with your hands, although you work with any other part of the body. It is one of the ways of expressing affection, and not all of them are physical, there are verbal and non-verbal ones, such as with an affectionate look or pleasant and friendly words, for example.

It is also an expression of love, whatever it may be. A caress is a way of saying “I love you” to your partner, your son or daughter, your relatives, your father, your mother, your grandparents or whoever believes and believes that you will be well received, because caresses are to generate well-being, do not disturb.

The family generates the first psycho-affective learning, being caresses an important part in the construction of self-esteem, present and future. The affective and relational family models are learned and repeated inside and outside the family nucleus. Therefore, it is very likely that, if a person develops in an emotional environment, with relatives who express their love, this in turn will do so with the rest of their social interactions, between friends, with their partner, their future children. and his or her environment. depending on the level of closeness.

Of course, sexual and erotic intentionality would not be present when we pamper our children, but that does not mean that we feel pleasure when our parents caress us, hug us or smile at us, right? Intentionality colors different affects. Why do I caress my partner and why do I caress my son? Obviously they are not the same goals.

How to enjoy the caresses

I will focus on the tactile modality since many people have difficulty, or do not know how to do it or receive it. There are people who get up with pleasure and others with disgust or fear when they are touched or offered. It probably has to do with your psycho-affective schema. Maybe you had negative experiences associated with touch throughout your life or your caregiving skills may not be very developed, not anymore.

Fear must be out of the game. At least you have to take risks and gain confidence. It is necessary to focus on the sensations and abstract from external or internal interference, not listening to our limiting thoughts, such as “I don’t know how to do it”, “I won’t like it” or “what if I generate rejection? “, For example.

The psychologist Díaz Illescas recommends taking care of the aesthetics of the hands, that they do not scratch, use creams and file the nails, since they can be part of the caresses.

“Caresses need patience, do them slowly and let your fingers travel to discover new corners,” says the expert. “Don’t forget to do it in waves, as if your hands were waves of the sea that reach the beach in its entirety. Areas like the armpits are often forgotten but absolutely delicious, washed by the waves.”

Imagine that you are putting cream on someone’s body or on your own for the sole purpose of moisturizing. It’s mechanical, that wouldn’t be caresses. If you do it with an additional affective objective, such as caring, offering pleasure and affection or increasing your desire or self-esteem, with more or less intensity and without necessarily intending to give a massage, that is caresses.

Don’t forget that pleasure is received by the giver and the receiver, and if I give it, double the pleasure for me. So you could put it into practice in your body.

Exercises to learn to caress

Desire plays an important role but it would not be enough to do it well. There are people who are eager but not very skilled.

Raquel D. Illescas says that we can practice in many ways in our day to day. Apart from the braille dice, we can use Chinese balls, but not the vaginal ones, but the manual and metallic ones, which are used for meditation and relaxation. They are usually two that we spin continuously in one of our hands. Unlock and streamline our fingers.

Carrying out activities such as pottery, caressing and molding clay, or playing with the putties or modeling pastes that children use for their crafts and games will be a fun and very creative training.

Likewise, playing with the snow, writing or drawing on it or on the frost that is generated on the windows of your car or making castles on the beach, decorating them with ‘sprinkles’ of sand and water or defining details with your finger, would be a very effective workout.

types of strokes

Training is essential, but intention and intensity are even more so. So we could receive warm or tender caresses.

– Caressing your partner’s feet under the blanket generates rapprochement. If they are ticklish, it is better to caress the instep area, less sensitive than the sole, and opt for pedicures. A scratch can have the opposite effect.

– Making hands in the cinema, literally, is caressing the hands of the person who accompanies you. Intertwining your fingers and caressing the interdigital areas is a great activator of desire.

– Caressing your back in bed to fall asleep is a very intense act of love, as long as you like the other party. And if he doesn’t fall asleep, he can generate heat and the caresses are mutual and intense.

– Slide your hands inside your body. The skin is much more sensitive, although not everyone can withstand so much stimulation.

– Caressing with a tender or suggestive look, as you wish, while gently touching another person or including nice or sexy words, will make your whole body increase the effect of the physical caress.

– Write or guess messages of love or mischief with the braille dice. For them to understand you, both of you will have to train. They will become experts in care.

– And what would you like to caress his tongue, lips or cheeks when kissing? Touching my lips has always seemed like a magical caress to me.

– Dancing, the rubbing of a breast on the other person’s body can become a very sensual caress, as well as the rubbing of the male genitalia under clothing, if desired, of course. To achieve the former, the ‘kizomba’ is very suitable, and for the latter, a sensual bachata will not disappoint.

Surround yourself with supportive people who caress your life.