I came across these words today and they stuck to me like glue:
“Your value does not diminish based on someone’s inability to see your value.”

There may come a time in life when others feel that you are not good enough, when they choose not to see the best you are doing. When despite all your efforts, they only see you as useless and worthless. Alright! You can’t blame them, everyone has the right to believe what they want to believe.

There will always be people willing to criticize you and tell you how flawed you are. There will always be people waiting to magnify your shortcomings. Believe me when I tell you that there will always be people who, even on your best days, will refuse to see anything good in you. You can’t blame them yet, they have a right to believe what they want to believe.

What you can do, however, is refuse to let people’s judgments of you define you. Why would you let someone who only has a limited perception of you tell you who you can or cannot be? By the time you let the negative words spoken by clueless people sink into your memory and have dominating power over your mind, you have already lost.

If you’re reading this, I want you to know that you’re okay. No one is born perfect, we all strive to be a better version of ourselves. Your story is far from over my friend. Get away from all negative energy and turn those hurtful words into motivation. Work on yourself as if your life depended on it and open up to the world of possibilities. I assure you that you can be everything you want to be. You can be great.

So don’t blame them, thank them. Because now, you’re awake. And because you are wide awake, you become an embodiment of empathy and compassion. You are equipped with the understanding that we are all unique in our own different ways. You recognize that everyone you meet is superior to you in some way, you discover their good points and learn from them.

Remember, with little sparks of love, gratitude, and tolerance that you leave your way as you go through life, you make this world a better place.

Bukola Helen Olusolade Oba
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