Whether you’re head over heels in love, still looking for love, or mad at the person you love, the suggestions below are surefire ways to spark more feelings of love into your life. Just pick one of these suggestions and try it out on your spouse, boyfriend, yourself, or a friend. Or for those who crave a bigger dose of feel-good, try one a day for the next 14 days!

• Make a love list full of silly, sweet, funny, and heartwarming reasons why you love someone. When you’re angry or disappointed, read this list! When you are happy and in love, add it to this list. If you are sad or lonely, make a Love List for yourself, a relative or a friend.
• Share the things on your love list with the person you wrote them for. Mail them on a card. Send a text message every hour. Write them on notes and hide them in your shoes or coat pockets. Make a post. Leave voice messages on your phone.
• Pretend you are meeting your spouse or boyfriend for the first time. Choose a new place, where none of you have ever been. arrive separately. Draw attention through the restaurant or cafe. Introduce yourself using newly invented names that suit your mood. See them (and yourself) new.
• Surprise them on any given day. It’s not her birthday. It’s not your anniversary. It’s not Valentine’s Day. It’s nothing Tuesday and you cook a candlelit dinner or buy her that gadget she’s been drooling over or offer an hour-long massage and kiss-fest.
• Be the classy, ​​witty, sexy, romantic and fun person you’ve always wanted to be in a relationship with! Dress in sexy clothes, tell funny jokes, focus on the positive, talk to strangers, be dynamic and magnetic.
• Listen. Focus all your attention on them. Be fully present. (Try reflective listening where you actually repeat every sentence you say word for word. It’s amazing how good it feels for the listener to know that someone hears every word!)
• Try something new together that you’ve always wanted to do. Now.
• Find a way to turn your anger or anger into something fun. Buy and wear big, puffy coats so they can bump into each other. Put on your favorite music and dance. Have a sword fight with foam swords. He speaks with fake accents. (When my boyfriend says “Hey Boo Boo” like Yogi Bear, it’s impossible not to laugh!)
• Collect and print your ten favorite photos of the two of you where you’re really happy. Hang them somewhere where you will see them often. Allow yourself to feel the joy over and over and over again.
• Be vulnerable. Say something you wouldn’t say to anyone else or have been afraid to say.
• Choose connection over being right or proving a point. (Ooh, that’s hard. But wow, it’s so worth it!)
• Meet those unmet needs elsewhere. Don’t expect anyone in your life to be everything to you.
• Be. This is the number one best way to connect, and the best gift you can give.
• If you don’t have a partner, or even if you do, do all these things for yourself. Loving the person you are with starts with you. If you love yourself and have fun, you are well on your way to loving how wonderful and imperfect Valentine is in your life or is about to appear in your life.