Now there is a question asked over and over again. Have you ever heard a definitive answer to that? Actually, I don’t think there is one… unless the answer is “it depends”.

Of course it depends. What does it depend on? Taken to the basics of the formula, it’s up to the two of you. Kissing is still a one-on-one event. Too often it is considered a prelude and not the main event. That lessens the impact and value of the kiss. It makes it part of the sexual act in some way. May I be the first to observe that this is a good thing, and like all good things it must be savored and not devoured.

If you want the kiss to stand on its own; if you want the kiss to make her weak in the knees, to take her breath away, then the kiss itself should be the main event. The main event of kissing is an art. As with any art form, the practitioner’s skill set, motivation, and outcome vary. Could Leonardo da Vinci have painted the Mona Lisa without first developing his skills? Could Michelangelo have painted the Sistine Chapel without help?

The message here is that everything is seen in comparisons. How are you doing in comparison? Don’t you want the power to take a woman’s breath away, with nothing more than a kiss? I dare say you do. Well, I’ll tell you that I do, but I bet you would too.

Take the time to learn the art and then find one lucky lady to get the memorable kiss. If that doesn’t work for both of you, both of you should look elsewhere. Kissing is not just a prelude, but a prelude to kissing with impact and now everything is probably better. Of course, if you don’t learn the art, it’s easier for the men who do.