I’m sure we’ve all met a good speaker, someone we could sit and listen to all day. But have you ever thought why they speak so well?

A person who speaks well comes across as calm and in control, even if they don’t feel that way (I’ve met many such people). They have good eye contact and, above all, resist other people’s time pressure and speak when they are ready. If you want to speak well this is vital.

Time pressure is on the mind

When my stutter was out of control, I beat myself up before it started, in the most important place: my mind. I thought I couldn’t get the words out and really felt like I was taking up the other person’s precious time.

Of course, other people don’t think so. A listener will give us time to speak, even give us time to stutter, if we don’t surrender our power. If you stutter, then stutter with dignity and try not to act like someone who doesn’t deserve to be in the conversation.

Practice slowing down and taking steps to speak more confidently

Diaphragmatic (or rib) breathing and speaking with a deeper tone are powerful techniques that, when mastered, will help you speak better and more confidently. When these are practiced without time pressure, you will be able to speak using a solid method and at your own pace.

Speaking when you’re ready will feel awkward at first because, like a person who stutters, you’ll want to jump up and make a sound, whether that sound is fluent or not. If you focus on yourself, look the listener in the eye and begin to realize that you have respect for yourself and they will respect you in return, even if you stutter!

Slowly regaining your self-esteem in this way can take your speech to new places, even new heights.

Start practicing right now! There will come a time when the positive outweighs the negative

Those of us who stutter have a whole bank of past hurts and negative memories. We have built them over time. He left them with this thought:

When you start right now to do something positive with your speech and be consistent, the tide will eventually turn. No matter when, don’t focus on it, understand that by becoming more positive in the art of speaking there will come a time when the positive will outweigh the negative and you will have created a bank of positive memories and a new confidant. mindset.