If you are a woman dating a man and you find yourself frequently waiting for his call, you are actually hurting your chances of a long-term relationship with him. Most women know that just about everything they do in a dating situation affects how a man sees them. If you sit patiently waiting for him to call you day after day, you’re sending him a clear message about yourself that isn’t very flattering.

Waiting for his call may seem like what any considerate woman would do when she’s head over heels for a man, but it’s really not. It is inconsiderate of a man to say that she will call and then not. As women, we tend to give the man we love the benefit of the doubt and excuse his behavior by deciding he’s been too busy or other things have come up. The truth of the matter is that if your man was crazy about you, he would call you often. I would also beg you to call him. When you make it clear to him that you have nothing better to do than wait to hear from him, his interest level in you will drop dramatically.

If you’re always waiting for his call, and you finally call him to ask why he hasn’t contacted you, you’re hurting things even more. Doing this makes you look desperate before the man of your life. The best thing to do when a man doesn’t get in touch when he says he will is to focus on other things. Don’t call him, don’t email him, and don’t send him any texts. Pretend you’ve forgotten his contact information if you have to, but never make the first move. You want him to see that you’re not patiently waiting for him to decide what’s next in your relationship. Instead, you are showing him that you are fine without him. When a man feels this way about the woman in his life, he will work harder to maintain her affection.