Ever wonder why phone sex is big business? Guys spend a lot of dollars a minute on hot and dirty talk of lustful women. And women swoon with a sexy voice and devour romance novels with descriptive scenes of seduction. Although most women and men tend to be shy when expressing their erotic desires, we all love hearing a sexy voice focused on getting us turned on. With a few techniques, you can learn to use your voice as a powerful auditory aphrodisiac. Talking dirty is passionate foreplay when you discover your special love language.

Talking dirty isn’t just about using obscene or even obscene words. It is about the emotions and desires that you want to convey and express. Depending on the context, you may want to yell profanity with unbridled passion or whisper the same words in public as a flirtatious indication of your playful intentions. Consider the sultry whisper of a seductress, the rough dominance of a dominatrix, or the ecstatic moans of a porn star. You can stimulate your lover’s erotic imagination with explicit and descriptive details or seduce him with simple phrases spoken in a sexy tone.

To be effective, your erotic talk must seem natural to you so that you feel comfortable and confident in what you say and how you say it. This comes from practice and being more aware of what you both like. Some words and phrases may seem and sound awkward at first. Here are some ways to practice dirty talk:

• When you read or watch a movie, keep a record of the sexy words that are used in romantic or exciting scenes. Make a list of erotic phrases that you can use, and when you are alone, practice saying them out loud in a sexy voice. Get familiar with how the words sound and how they make you feel.
• Get erotic literature that includes descriptive terms for various body parts and sexual activities. Include material that your lover would read. Read short, passionate passages out loud and experiment with different ways to make them sound seductive as you speak. Try whispering, lowering or raising your pitch, using a guttural purr, or even speaking with an accent.
• Write a fantasy or short erotic story that involves you and your lover. Weave the words and phrases you find exciting (from above). Read the story aloud to yourself using different types of voices to see which versions you find most exciting.
• Write a list of sexual compliments (for example, “I love the way you …”, “It feels so good when you …”) and wishes (for example, “I want your tongue hot …”, ” Use your fingers to … “). Say them out loud the way you imagine using them. You may want to practice them while you masturbate to feel the words increase your arousal.

Once you feel confident with your listening skills, here are some ways to use sex talk to spice up your sex life:

• While in a public situation, whisper seductively how you want to rape your lover. Build anticipation with naughty ideas that could come true before you get home.
• Use erotically encouraging words to describe exactly what you want and need to achieve an intense orgasm. Hearing your own words can also be very exciting.
• When it comes to internet dating, your first phone call is extremely important. A seductive voice and flirtatious words can stimulate intense desire and a sense of attraction for you.
• Participate in phone sex with your partner when you are apart (or even in separate rooms). Keep long distance relationships hot and passionate.
• Leave naughty voicemails that will make your lover run home wanting your touch.
• Record a sexy story or fantasy on your computer and download it to your lover’s MP3 player or iPod. Since many are playing videos now, you can even use a webcam to record a sexy video of yourself telling the erotic story.
• Stimulate your lover’s erotic imagination while making love. With your eyes closed, turn them into a fantasy with your voice.
• When participating in a game of gentle bondage with a blindfold, use your voice to provoke and tempt your submissive lover. Describe what you are going to do before you do it (or surprise them and do something totally unexpected).

Remember that you are talking dirty to excite yourself and your lover. However, keep in mind that, for some people, certain words have emotional triggers for bad memories. If you have a nerve, learn from each other and adapt. When you are open and communicate honestly about sex, both of you will feel empowered and more willing to express your erotic desires. Learn how to make love with words and you can set off sexual fireworks with hot mental foreplay.

Find out how you can use the power of your voice to generate sexual tension, heighten passion, and even trigger intense orgasms with near-hypnotic control. You will be amazed at the sexual pleasures you unleash when you discover the secrets of talking dirty.