Breakups are hard and they hurt. But culture and our friends tell us that if we fall off the horse, we have to get up and get back on. So what do we do now? Our friends drag us to clubs and parties trying to find the next Mr. Perfect. Why do we think that when a relationship ends, we have to go back in and find another?

It becomes an endless cycle of failed relationships that can only be stopped if you get out of the way and take the time to evaluate them. If you’ve been through a series of failed relationships, you must face the fact that they all have one common denominator and that is you.

Your relationships end the same way because you have created a pattern. You start the relationship the same way; you behave in the same way during the relationship until it finally ends in the same way. You seem to think that just because you have a new partner, you will have a different kind of relationship. That’s like thinking that buying a new baseball bat will make you a better hitter. It does not work like that.

What you need to do is sit back and think about why your relationships failed. It doesn’t have to be a deep philosophical awakening. Be honest with yourself. If it ended because they had nothing in common except lust for each other, that’s a very good point to consider. If he ended up because he said you were too annoying, that’s another good point to consider.

Keep thinking about the bad things in relationships and write them down. Meeting all the people you’ve dated at a bar says a lot about the type of person and the relationship you’ll have. Think about the type of person you would like to date. Perhaps the first change is meeting people in places other than bars.

If all of your past relationships seem to be based on sex, maybe you should start meeting people with whom you have similar interests, so be more on the same page and get more mental stimulation or have fun based on a good sense of self. humor. Both are important for a long-term relationship.

Relationships are work. Even non-romantic relationships, such as friendships, business partners, and those with family members, need a degree of management to keep them healthy and successful. If you noticed that you scold or have other undesirable characteristics, work on that and become a better person.

You can get out of the merry-go-round relationship if you really want to. Take time between relationships to learn from mistakes. Don’t jump back or let lust be your guide because it seems like the right thing to do. Find partners who are on the same mental level and share your sense of humor. It can make your relationships more successful.